I will take disowning for 1000, Alex

After a conversation with my Mom today, I have decided that there are a few members of my family that I would like to disown. Not my sis or parents. Just an uncle and his wife and possibly my grandpa’s daughter – technically she isn’t a blood relative so I will happily settle for just torturing her endlessly.

My Grandma has Alzeimers Disease and for the past year, my Dad has been taking care of her. She is in a facility for patients with this disease but my dad goes there daily. He brushes her hair, helps her shower, dresses her and otherwise handles her needs. The facility just keeps her safe…and locked up so she doesn’t wander around the world. Grandma is happy. She stays busy. She has a private room and the facility is wonderful. She even has a telephone in her room so the family that is out of town can call her. (this will become important later)

I have an Uncle who is retired – like my daddy. He and his wife travel a lot. They have 2 homes. One here in the USA and one in Puerto Rico. They frequently visit the Keys. Since Daddy moved my Grandma here so he could take care of her, do you know how many times this Uncle has been to visit his own mother? Ummm once. For an hour or so. While he stopped by on his way to spend a week in the Keys. It is about as often as he has telephoned her as well. Do you know how many times he has called my father to question the costs – not the quality – of Grandma’s care? Pretty much on a weekly ongoing basis. Dad gets these same inquiries from the step sister. No questions about Grandma’s care or her health, just about how her money is being spent.

Do you know why this is? Because my Grandma is loaded. Yep. My Grandpa was pretty much a brilliant business man who loved real estate. He took very good care of Grandma while he was alive and he saw to it that she would be cared for in the same manner once he passed away. She is in this facility because she has a disease that makes it unsafe for her to live without constant supervision. She would set the house on fire, give away everything she had or worse yet, wander off and not recall who in the hell she was. None of THAT matters to these few members of the family though. All they care about is how much of her estate will be left for them when she passes. How crappy is that?

The only reason I get pissy about this is because the stupid assed emails they send and the phone calls they make, affect my Daddy. My Daddy who sees his mother on a daily basis. Often more than once per day. My Daddy who has to go through her closets and return items to the facility that Grandma has stolen throughout the day because she doesn’t know any better. My Daddy who often has to bathe his own mother because she has become incontinent now and he doesn’t want her smelling like piss and shit. Yet, they can’t call her. They can’t inquire about HOW she is doing. It is quite obvious that they just care about the money. I am ashamed to call them family and to know that I have the same genetic make up as people who can be so shallow and uncaring.

I would love to tell them what I think of them. I would love to have them see what this is doing to my Daddy. I would love just once for one of them to make a sacrifice in their busy as fuck life and come TRY to do and deal with what my Dad is handling EVERY SINGLE DAY. It would be a futile waste of my energy to rant and rave to them. Is it ok that I am hoping my grandma outlives them all? Fuckers.

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